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Home  Florida Family Law  How can I manage co-parenting with a difficult ex?

It is no secret that the modern court strives to create a co-parenting arrangement after a divorce. While in the past, children tended to be primarily placed with their mothers after a divorce (particularly if they were young), now most experts agree that children having equal access to both of their parents during the formative years is important, even if those parents are no longer co-habiting. While the available evidence supports this, co-parenting can be hard on divorced parents, even ones that had an amicable divorce. If you happen to be dealing with a difficult ex-spouse, the problems are compounded. According to Healthline, one of the best things to do is ensure that you do not speak negatively about the other parent in front of your child. 

It can be difficult to not air negative opinions about your ex-spouse if you have a tumultuous relationship with him or her, but this should not be done in front of the children, even if the children are older. Nobody expects you to be a saint: it is important for you to have healthy outlets for your feelings, but these outlets should be fellow adults in your support network or a mental health professional. 

It is also important for you to remain consistent with the parenting plan in place that you agreed to with the other parent. Even if the other parent is falling through, it is imperative that you attempt to abide by the plan as much as possible. This way, in the even that you do feel that the co-parenting plan needs to be modified by the courts, you have proof that you did everything by the books. This will help you in the modifications.