For any couple working through a divorce, daily life can be tough and there could be a considerable amount of uncertainty. However, parents often have an especially hard time when their marriage is coming to an end. Not only do some worry about child support and how their life will change financially (raising children can be incredibly expensive, of course), but some are completely unsure of how custody will be split up or whether they will even be able to visit their children after the divorce is finalized.
First, it is important to understand the ins and outs of your divorce and unique family situation. Whether you are pursuing sole custody, plan on splitting custody with your spouse or even just want to secure your visitation rights, you should prepare for court and try your best to maintain a healthy relationship with your kids. Even if you are awarded custody, you may face challenges as a parent. For example, your kids may disagree with the divorce and they may harbor bitterness toward you as a result of your marriage falling apart.
If possible, try to have good discussions with your kids about what is happening and provide them with a sense of safety and reassurance. If you are a non-custodial parent, you may benefit from trying to stay on good terms with your former spouse and maintaining a sense of harmony, if you can. You should also try to think about how this divorce may have impacted your kids and do what you can to help them through this.